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What is the unmeasurable negative effect of people saying no or being negative on you me and society? Is it worse to ignore someone than say no to them? Probably...
It appears to be all linked to the EGO that makes some people confused and think that they are better than others so don't want to care or help them which leads to the BAD reactions to any/every enquiry. As these people are negative to other people they get negative responses too leading to a cycle of negativity which makes the egotistical person feel worse and worse. The person who has control of their EGO and acts selflessly helping others gets rewarded many times over as others are nice back to them creating a cycle of GOOD where everyone wins. Often stress creates the negative cycle but this can be combated by looking at others who have 'less' making you feel humble and by laughing at ourselves as in the grand scheme of things nothing we do (nor our lives) appear to matter. 2.
This leads on to how you live your life. To enjoy it or to reach some goal that your parents/society has imposed on you? The TED talk below makes me step back and think about what is important and how money and status are worth less than self belief and pride...
Do not look for happiness but create it with what you have got.
When people have no choice they change their preferences to make them more happy about what they have. When they have choice they are always comparing what they have to others so are less happy as they compare with the average. On average nothing is average! 3.
Which leads to what you do with 8 hours of your life! well 3 sets of 8 hours.
8 hours working... If one person can do a job better than someone else should they take ove the job? How does that apply to what you do? Would you step aside if someone could do your job better than you? If you step aside then you would be able to do a different job that you are even better at. So everyone should keep looking out for someone who could do their job better than them. When they find that person they should give them their job so that they can go on to work in areas that they excel in.
8 hour sleeping... Is there a way to do good while you sleep? Create a website that offers advice/ helps others that will be online while you sleep.
8 hours relaxing... Is there a way to do good while you relax? Finding your passion in life and using that to build something that can be used to help others in your local/global community be it art/writing/acting/dancing/singing/playing... 4.
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Make yourself happy and content by giving. Please share your experience of making yourself happy by giving (takes 5 mins and will help someone else)...
Is pain and suffering almost always caused by selfish minds? It appears so.
That appears to be one main cause of suffering as many people think they are going without so take from others.Take a look at any selfish or 'evil'/'bad' person. They are always selfish and dont realise that they could give others happiness if they took time to step back and look at their life. Instead they think there is no time to look at their life (takes 5 minutes) so miss the chance to make their life happy and content.
I keep forgetting to appreciate what i have and keep getting wound up by life's little problems based around things like my Career.
All of these anxieties come from comparing myself to others so it is inevitable that i am unhappy at least 50% of the time as i (and everyone else) expects to be getting at least above average out of life if not to at least 90%! (meaning i am unhappy 90% of the time!!!).
Several different people suggested going for a walk whenever I feel bad (which works amazingly) and also to look on life not as a task but as a 'once in a lifetime' opportunity to see how many other people we can help and make happy. After all if you make someone else happy it makes you feel good so that can only be good. One other way is to look back at the simple things in life that I HAVE rather than look forward at the things i think i want. When i forget to appreciate these things i look up a video of someone who does not have one of these or try to find someone in the street who is missing one of these and try to help them a little. Below is a list of these things (if you cant do one move on to the next please)...
I can Breathe (breath in and out 10 times slowly concentrating on the air flowing into and out of your lounges) [hold your breath for a bit]
I can Touch (move one part of your body very slowly and concentrate on the sense) [sit still then move a tiny part of your body]
I can See (look at one small object or your hand and enjoy being able to see this) [close then open your eyes]
I can Hear (close your eyes and listen to the quietest sounds and enjoy them) [put your fingers in your ears;p]
I can Smell (breath in slowly through your nose and see what you can smell) [breath in through your mouth then nose]
I can Taste (What does your mouth taste like, the air or your skin?) [Eat something tasty]
I can Give (find someone who needs something and give it to them...Hug, Kiss...) [Dont forget to give yourself something too by hugging others]
Do you know any other ways to remind yourself to control your EGO so you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on helping others who are less (and more) fortunate than you are? Please share this information and any other ways to enjoy life (no matter how obvious)
We are also looking for people to collaborate on this project. Are you interested?Books that give lots of great advice on this are listed below as are lots of GREAT TED talks which explain about the benefits of selflessness (it makes YOU happy:) plus lots of free books can be downloaded from Project Gutenberg htt://www.gutenberg.org/
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